Of COURSE I l o v e L O V E!



You all know that I believe that friendship is a necessary part of a relationship for it to work on a long-term basis. While we don’t tell one person everything, your spouse/mate has got to be the kind of friend whom you CAN tell everything to, the one person whom you are not afraid to be yourself with and the one person whom you are not afraid to tell intimate things about yourself – you can be, and want to be vulnerable with them and doing those things come natural with this person. Love alone doesn’t cover those things – while being in-love is a great feeling, you need friendship to go with it. Perfect example…my father always says, “Your mother is always my friend even when she’s not behaving like my wife.” I can’t make it much simpler than that!

Being in-love makes you feel good, gives you butterflies, makes you anticipate being together, makes you daydream and fantasize, makes you feel desire, etc. Add friendship to those intense feelings, and you will also want to talk with this person when you hear good or bad news, you will want them when you need to be comforted- being friends with someone you love brings you back to them over and over again, and you never give up on them. It’s a rare thing- finding that particular “oomph” and/or chemistry that brings both of those dynamics into a relationship AT THE SAME TIME, but when you have both of them with someone, NOTHING and NO OTHER HUMAN BEING can compare.

*Jan 19th, 2012

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